Kebersyukuran dan Kemaafan Terhadap Kepuasan Pernikahan
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https://doi.org/10.25299/jaip.2019.vol16(2).3782Abstract
Marital satisfaction is an important aspect of the couple in the marriage. This study aims to look at the relationship between gratitude and forgiveness to marital satisfaction. This research was conducted in quantitative research using a research scale. The study population is a married couple who are residents of Rokan Hulu Regency. A purposive sampling technique was used in this study to determine respondents in accordance with research needs. The research subjects consisted of 330 respondents, 156 male respondents and 175 female respondents. The research scale in this study consisted of the gratitude scale, the scale of forgiveness, and the scale of marital satisfaction. The results showed that there was a significant relationship between gratitude and forgiveness to the marriage satisfaction of the people of Rokan Hulu Regency. The expected target output in this study is that rural communities are more aware of marital satisfaction, gratitude, and forgiveness. The results of this study can also be used as a reference regarding the household life of the Rokan Hulu community and as psychoeducation for married couples.
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Amato, P. R., and Bryndl., H. (2007). A comparison of high- and low- stress marriages that end in divorce. Journal of Marriage and Family (69), 621-638.
Anniza, N. (2008). Hubungan perilaku memaafkan (forgiveness) dan kepuasan pernikahan pada pasangan bekerja. Jurnal Ilmiah Psikologi 3(1) 69-84.
Arshat, Z., & Baharudin, R. (2009). Correlates of family strength in Malaysia. European Journal of Social Sciences, 10(1), 13-24.
Askari, Z. (2016). Forgiveness and its relationship with marital satisfaction: a sectional study. The International Journal of Indian Psychology, Volume 3, Issue 3, No. 10, 84.
Bono, G., & Mccullough., M.E. (2006). Positive responses to benefit and harm: bringing forgiveness and gratitude into cognitive psychotherapy. Journal Of Cognitive Psychotherapy: An International Quarterly 20 (2) , 1-10.
Charles, C. P. T., & Bryner, C. L. (2001). Children of divorce. Journal Of The American Board Of Family Practice 14 (30): 201-210.
Chew Sook Wah. (2013). Kesan kemaafan terhadap kepuasan perkahwinan. Tesis Sarjana Psikologi UKM.
Emmons, R.A., & Mccullough, M.E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: an experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal Of Personality And Social Psychology 84 (2) 377-389.
Emmons, R.A., & Mccullough, M.E. (2002). The grateful disposition: a conceptual andempirical topography. Journal Of Personality And Social Psychology 82 (1) 112–127.
Emmons, R. (2007). Thanks! How The New Science Of Gratitude Can Make You Happier. Boston: Houghton Mifflin.
Froh, J. J., & Bono, G. (2008). The Gratitude Of Youth. In S. J. Lopez (Ed.), Positive Psychology: Exploring The Best In People. Westport, CT: Greenwood Publishing Company.
Froh, Kashdan, Ozimkowski & Miller. (2009). Who benefis the most from a gratitude intervension in children and adolescent? Examining positive affects as a moderator. The Journal Of Positive Psychology (5): 408-422.
Froh, J. J., Kashdan, T. B., Ozimkowski, K. M., & Miller, N. (2009). Who benefits the most from agratitude intervention in children and adolescents? Examining positive affect as a moderator. The Journal Of Positive Psychology (4): 408–42.
Froh, J. J., Bono, G., & Emmons, R. A. (2009). Saying ‘‘Thank You’’ Is Beyond Manners: Gratitude And Motivation To Contribute To Society Among Early Adolescents. Manuscript Submitted For Publication.
Froh, J. J., Sefick, W. J., & Emmons, R. A. (2008). Counting blessings in early adolescents: an experi-mental study of gratitude and subjective well-being. Journal Of School Psychology (46): 213–233.
Froh, J. J., Yurkewicz, C., & Kashdan, T. B. (2009). Gratitude and subjective well-being in early adolescence: examining gender differences. Journal Of Adolescence (32): 633–650.
Froh, J. J., Sefick, W. J., & Emmons, R. A. 2008. Counting blessing in early adolescence: an experimental study of gratitude and subjective wellbeing. Journal Of School Psycholog 46 (2): 213-233.
Genova, M. D. (2008). Intimate Relationship Marriage & Family. Boston: Mcgraw-Hill.
Gradianti, T.A., dan Suprapti, V. (2014). Gaya penyelesaian konflik perkawinan pada pasangan duel earner. Journal Psikologi Pendidikan dan Perkembangan (3): 199-206.
Habibi, U. R. (2015). Kepuasan pernikahan pada wanita yang dijodohkan. eJournal Psikologi 3 (2): 579-588.
Kachadourian, L. K., Fincham, F., & Davila, J. (2005). Attitudinal ambivalence, rumination, and forgiveness of partner transgressions in marriage. Personality And Social Psychology Bulletin 31(3): 334-342.
Kashdan, T.B., Mishra, Anjali, Breen, W.E. & Froh, J.J. (2009). Gender differences in gratitude : Examining appraisals, narrative,the willingness to express emotion and changes in psychological needs. Journal of Personality (3): 77-89.
Kurdek, L. A. (2005). Gender and marital satisfaction early in marriage: a growth curve approach. Journal of marriage and family 67, 68-84.
Lambert, N.M., & Fincham, F.D. (2010a). The potency of gratitude expression. Manuscript submitted for publication.
Lemme, B. H. (1995). Development In Adulthood. USA: Allyn & Bacon.
Lee, Y. S., Waite, L. J. (2010). How appreciated do wives feel for the housework they do?.Social Science Quarterly (91): 312-329.
Li, D., Zhang, W., Li, X., Li, N., & Ye, B. (2012). Gratitude and suicidal ideation and suicide attemps among chinese adolescents; direct, mediated and moderated affects. Journal Of Adolescents 35: 55-66.
Mathias, et al. (2007). The role of trait forgiveness and relationship satisfaction episodic forgiveness. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 26(2), 199-217.
McNulty, J. K. (2008). Forgiveness in marriage: putting the benefits into context. Journal Of Family Psychology 22 (1): 289-297.
Mccullough, M. E., Emmons, R. A., & Tsang, J. (2002). The grateful disposition: a conceptual empirical topography. Journal Of Personality And Social Psychology 82: 112–127.
Mccullough, M. E., Kilpatrick, S. D., Emmons, R. A., & Larson, D. B. (2001). Is gratitude a moral affect?. Psychological Bulletin, 127, 249–266.
Mc.Cullough, M. (2000). Forgineness as human strength: theory, measument, and links to well being. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology. Vol 19(1). P. 43-55.
Mirzadeh, M., & Fallahchay, R. (2012). The relationship between forgiveness and marital satisfaction. J. Life Sci. Biomed. 2(6): 278-282.
Nancy, M. N. (2013). Hubungan nilai dalam perkawinan dan pemaafan dengan keharmonisan keluarga. (3) 32-39.
Ng, et al. (2013). Gender differences in marital and life satisfaction among Chinese Malaysians. Sex Roles 60(1-2), 33-43.
Noer, M., & Sarumpaet, A. (2017). Konsep Adab Peserta Didik dalam Pembelajaran menurut Az-Zarnuji dan Implikasinya terhadap Pendidikan karakter di Indonesia. Al-Hikmah: Jurnal Agama Dan Ilmu Pengetahuan, 14(2), 181-208.
Pujiastuti, E., & Retnowati, S. (2004). Kepuasan pernikahan dengan depresi pada kelompok wanita menikah yang bekerja dan yang tidak bekerja. Humanitas Indonesian Psychological Journal (1): 17-33.
Rosen, Grandon, J., Myers, J., & Hattie, J. (2004). The relationship between marital characteristics, marital interaction processes, and marital satisfaction. Journal Of Counseling And Development 82: 58-68.
Safarzadeh, S., Esfahaniasl, M., & Bayat, M. R. (2011). The relationship between forgiveness, perfectionism and intimacy and marital satisfaction in Ahwaz Islamic Azad University married students. Middle-East Journal of Scientific Research, 9(6), 778-784.
Sears et. al. (1994). Psikologi Sosial. Edisi Kelima. Jakarta: Erlangga.
Sheldon, K. M., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2006). How to increase and sustain positive emotion: the effects of expressing gratitude and visualizing best possibleselves. The Journal Of Positive Psychology 1 (20): 73-82.
Sofa, A. (2015). Kebersyukuran dengan kepuasan pernikahan pada pasangan suami istri. Other Thesis, University Of Muhammadiyah Malang.
Stutzer, A., & Frey, B. (2006). Does marriage make people happy, or do happy people get married? Journal Of Socio-Economics 35(2): 326-347.
Tambak, S. (2017). Metode Cooperative Learning dalam Pembelajaran Pendidikan Agama Islam. Al-Hikmah: Jurnal Agama Dan Ilmu Pengetahuan, 14(1), 1-17.
Toepfer, S. M., & Walker, K. (2009). Letter of gratitude: improving well-beingthrought expressive writing. Journal Of Writing Research 1 (3), 181-198.
Seif & Bahari. (2003). Relationship between forgiveness and mental health of couple. Persian Journal of psychological studies (1) 1, 9-18.
Wood et al. (2008). The role of gratitude in the development of social support, stress, and depression: two longitudinal studies. Journal Of Research In Personality, 42, 854–871.
Watkins et al. (2003). Gratidute and happiness: development of a measure of gratitude and relationships with subjective well-being. Social Behavior And Personality (5): 431-452.
Yuniarti, D., & Sriningsih. (2012). Penyesuaian diri terhadap konflik perkawinan pada suami atau istri bekerja. Yogyakarta: Fakultas Mercu Buana Yogyakarta.
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2019-10-09
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Herawati, I., & Widiantoro, D. (2019). Kebersyukuran dan Kemaafan Terhadap Kepuasan Pernikahan. Al-Hikmah: Jurnal Agama Dan Ilmu Pengetahuan, 16(2), 108–119. https://doi.org/10.25299/jaip.2019.vol16(2).3782
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